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Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Lets have a vote

Should mothers that stop the children from seeing there fathers, ignore and disobey court orders loose there rights for the children to live with them and undergo a psychological assessment if there are no reasons why she is not letting the father have meaningful access to the children. 

Please reply YES or NO

Saturday, October 8, 2011

Your children when they come back

As your children spend time with the other parent you start to wonder what there up to and if there happy or not. When the day comes for you to pic them up they run into your arms and give you the biggest hug. Everything seems great until you notice the sunburn, and that they are constantly scratching there head. When you get home you find they are riddled with nits and they have a bad sunburn. There hair was never brushed or nether was there teeth. You wonder how you could have let your children stay with such slobs. You start to think on how you can not let them back there for fear that this will happen again. What can you do when there is court orders and it states that the other parent has that certain time. If anyone else has had this happen please feel free to comment and share your view. Being a parent means you keep your kids healthy clean and safe. not the other way around.

Monday, October 3, 2011

Mistakes that fathers make? True? Yes or No

I have read an informing article on mistakes that some fathers make while seeking shared custody. While i agree with some, others i feel that its not true and that it should be done. Despite if the court looks down at it.

1. Would you use the affidavit for character assassination?

Depending on the circumstance. I wouldn't sit there and go on and on about how bad the other person is and that their to dangerous for the kids to be around but i would tell the court the major problems of the other person and how that could be dangerous for the kids. That is just stating the obvious. Like has the other party had previous accounts of self harm when they get angry or down. That would be a big factor. Depression and many other things could be significant enough for the court to know so they can make appropriate decisions for the children. So using the affidavit for character assassination i would say no but using it to help the court decide whats in the best interest for the children then i wouldn't hesitate to say it.

2. Acknowledging the good parenting ways of the other parent.

Yes i recon everyone should do this as everyone is different and have there own way of bringing up their children. Not only does it help in court but it also lets both parties decide on a medium way to bring there kids up. This way they are not just pushed from one thing to the next. It also helps the kids more in the long run and benefit's the parents as it wont all fall to one parent to teach the kids to read, write, toilet train and so on. Also the bad traits should be told. This way it can be changed and the children wont develop bad habit's.

3. Not attending post separation parenting courses.

To a parent that is stuck and cant or doesn't know how to teach there kids something i suppose this would help. But being a parent is learning how to be a parent and a good one at that. People can tell you how to do something a million different ways but its your life and your children. The kids and ourselves learn from mistakes. That's whats makes us who we are. If you didn't know how to cook then pick up a book and teach yourself. You could join a class and learn how to do it but at the end of the day your the one that will be in the kitchen cooking. You make a mistake, you learn from it so it wont happen next time. I think that this shouldn't be pushed as there are natural parents out there that don't need to do a parenting course but then there are some that would like that little bit extra help. It should be up to the persons choice and not frowned upon if they choose not to.

4. Not wanting to compromise.

This would solely depend of what the compromise was. Personally i know that when you are in mediation and your not prepared then you can be hit with a lot of "how abouts" and "why don't we try this". It can be very daunting and you could be pushed into something you don't want. This is the worst thing that could happen. You need to go in prepared or at least unarguable from where you stand and what you want. Compromising a little in regards to at the moment living arrangement's and so on would be OK but remember in the long run its not what you want and you will have to keep going back to court to get what you believe is your entitlements. So compromise a little if you have to for the sake of the kids. The question that i ask is why does one party have to compromise while the other doesn't?

This is not just for fathers but for mothers as well. We need to stop and think about what the children need, want and what the deserve. Parties need to stop using children as pawns to get at each other. Many people could say this, it could be plastered all over the news and people just wont stop. 

One party will say nasty things about the other party to the children and then they will say it back to the other party and so forth. Its ridiculous and it doesn't help the problem it only makes it bigger. But for people out there doing that, stop for two seconds and think, do the children need to be taught this?  

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Fathers rights being abandoned

Are fathers right slowly starting to be forgotten? Has the court stopped listening to fathers?
With a poll in 2010 the was a vote for Aussie's who think the 50/50 shared custody should be abandoned? it showed that the vote was
Yes with 38.39% with 837 votes
No with 61.61% with 1343 votes

So Australia still supports the decision of 50/50 shared custody.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

When fathers rights were founded

Did you know that fathers rights groups began in 1970 with groups such as lone fathers association. I have Links on this blog at the bottom to other organizations that are well known and are also helping out fathers in difficult times.

Now with parties lying in court. How do you think they should be dealt with? There is no point in lying as it just makes the case longer and harder which in the end people will tend to second think what they say or not even believe what they say.

Is there any straight one rule for fathers? No there is not its all over the place. But lets put this forward and try and make it fair on both parties in different circumstances.

Are you a father who is stuck and cant find help. Click on my links as they are directed to pages that have endless information for you.

Monday, September 26, 2011

Petition up date

Hey everyone if you copy and paste this link into your address bar it should take you straight there. Thanks everyone.



As fathers our rights

Well in Australia the term "child custody" has been changed to a better sounding "lives with" or "spends time with". Let Australia's politicians know what the overwhelming majority of Australians want. Sign the petition and state your support for a legislated presumption of 50/50 joint residence (equal parenting) in the event of separation, as a starting point. The link :

Current Number of Signatures: 6049

Australians Overwhelmingly Support Equal Parenting. On average, 80% to 90% of Australian believe that there should be a legislated presumption of 50/50 shared residence, in the event of separation. Its the numbers that show the truth and that more of Australia wants fathers to have up to 50/50 time with there kids. It is also funny that it can take a long time to get into court for a father. First there is mediation which in no case ever fair unless the other party agrees with you and it just seems to be a way to suspend things or hold things off. If people agreed on what they wanted then they wouldn't be there in the first place. Secondly if the father hasn't got the kids at the start and then decides that he wants them for a majority of the time he then has to either try and organise with the mother and be civil and if that doesn't work apply for mediation that can take anywhere from 6 months too 3 months depending on waiting lists. During that time if there is no orders in place at all then the mother can easily say no and the father will not be able to see the kids until they have been to mediation. that way something is written up and can be followed. Even then its not promised until it has been to court and signed and sealed. As drastic measures i had read is that a father had kept his kids after she had told him that it would be the last time he would have any contact with them until it had gone through court. therefore she applied for a recovery order for the children. Little did she no that a quick set of orders were made that the father could see the kids every second weekend and call them every 3rd day. This way he still had time with the kids until it goes to court and he fights for the time that he wants. Smart i do say but it shouldn't be this way. Kids a not pawns in life, they are not money trees, they are not some part of furniture that people can pass off when they don't want them. They are our kids and people just like you and me. I will be posting more stories and my opinion as i read them but please don't forget to sign the petition above. Thanks everyone and stay tuned

Saturday, September 24, 2011

The rights of fathers in Australia

Hi every one. Just starting the topics on Fathers rights in Australia. As we all no it does seem just a tad bit unfair. ill share my view. I have two gorgeous girls of my own that i only get for 2 nights a fortnight. No domestic violence, drugs, or anything that deems me unfit. I myself think i should receive more time with my kids so they get to know me properly and that they know they have a dad there. Despite all her spiteful tries and i wish i could blurt it on here so everyone could see just how spite full they can be i cant. For legal reasons i guess. My point is that i think fathers should have just as much right as mothers in certain circumstances. That it shouldn't be one sided and that fathers can provide just as much if not more help to there kids as a mother can. As the days progress ill post up here things i think should change or be made equal.

Any comments would be appreciated.